During FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember marriage conference, one of the points made is that a couple is either moving towards each other or towards isolation. I take that to mean that they are always either moving closer together or drifting apart, but the relationship is never static or stationary. (Click on the title to read more.)
We must pay the most careful attention, therefore, to what we have heard, so that we do not drift away. (Hebrews 2:1)
Using a boating analogy, a couple is either drifting or rowing together. When you drift, the wind or current take you where it wants to go. You don’t control the direction or speed. However, when you row, you power the boat and set the direction. When two are rowing, you share the load and expend less energy individually, especially when you are rowing in the same direction with the same rhythm. When you are rowing in opposite directions, you go in circles. When you are not rowing at the same speed or are not aligned in your rowing, it will be more difficult to chart the course and you will meander along, taking longer to get to where you want to go or even ending up somewhere else.
The good news is that you get to choose. You can choose to align with each other or to allow misalignment to overtake your relationship.
Is it time for a course correction? Is it time to stop drifting, allowing circumstances to influence your relationship? If you are ready for something different and better in your marriage, choose to do the work that comes along with setting a new course. Identify resources and connect with people who will help you and then engage with them! Let us know if we can help.