If you are reading this, you are in or have been in at least one relationship. We can't live in this world and not be in relationship. We are born into relationship by the mere fact that we have a mother and father, whether or not they were present when we were growing up. You could say that we are made to be in relationship. Simple, right? Well, maybe simple, just not easy.
To a large degree, what separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom are our mind, will, and emotions. Our thinking impacts our behavior. So, when two or more of us come together, there are bound to be differences that create conflict. It's just a natural outcome of being in relationship!
If we want to make it less hard (and admit that some of us kind of like it when things are challenging), we need to start with changing our thinking. So, when you are confronted with a situation today where your wife, child, friend, co-worker, or boss get under your skin, will you allow yourself to get pulled in by letting your emotions (possibly anger) control you? Or, will you choose to take a step back to assess the situation, take a deep breath, pause, and gently ask them to help you understand what's going on? If you choose a different response like this, you'll be amazed at how simple it is to reduce conflict in relationships.