Most, if not all, of us have challenges in marriage and relationships at work from time to time. We may even have an extended season of difficulty. There are some who will leave when the “going gets tough” and others who persevere, which is not easy.
In marriage, persevering pays off!
I just finished reading the book “The Good News About Marriage” by Shaunti Feldhahn. Throughout the book she counters much of the discouraging information that has been widely publicized and generally accepted about marriage with good news based on a closer look at the data and further evaluation of all available sources. (For more information, visit https://shaunti.com/tb-books/good-news-marriage/)
Did you know that most married couples who are unhappy will be happily married if they persevere with each other for five years?
She shares two conclusions from a 2002 article (“Does Divorce Make People Happy. Findings from a Study of Unhappy Marriages.” who’s lead author is Linda Waite):
- “Two out of three unhappily married adults who avoided divorce or separation ended up happily married five years later.”
- “Among those who rated their marriages as very unhappy, almost eight out of ten who avoided divorce were happily married five years later.”
She cites another report that shows similar results (“Marriage in Oklahoma: 2001 Baseline Statewide Survey on Marriage and Divorce.” who’s lead author is Christine Johnson):
- “Among those whose marriages had been in enough trouble to consider divorce, the vast majority said they were glad they had stuck it out and were still together (79 percent of those married seven years or less, rising to 95 percent or more after the first seven years of marriage).”
Although these studies were conducted several years ago, they show that if struggling married couples persevere and get the help they need to overcome their challenges, they are likely to come out in a better place. Not all of them, but most.
So, if you are in a struggling marriage, there is hope! I encourage you work through your challenges. I know, it’s simple to say, but not at all easy to do. But, the payoff is well worth it! (And I can say that from personal experience.)