Monday, January 28, 2019, 05:04 PM

There are many things that threaten the health of your marriage. Your thoughts can be one of the biggest ones, specifically negative thoughts. Nearly everything we do starts with a thought, which leads to an emotion (feeling), which influences our attitude, which directs our behaviors (actions and reactions). So, if we control our thoughts, then we can change our reactions to circumstances or what others say or do to us. (Click on the title to read the full post.)

There are many things that threaten the health of your marriage. Your thoughts can be one of the biggest ones, specifically negative thoughts. Nearly everything we do starts with a thought, which leads to an emotion (feeling), which influences our attitude, which directs our behaviors (actions and reactions). So, if we control our thoughts, then we can change our reactions to circumstances or what others say or do to us.

Negative thoughts can take the form of lies (including partial truths), vows (He always… or She never…), or unhealthy agreements about your identity (I am stupid; I never get it right; I am not good enough.) that go against who God says you are. Anytime you have a negative thought about yourself, your spouse, other people, or God, it will work against your relationship with that person if you don’t do something about it. Letting thoughts linger and take hold may lead to bitterness, anger, and ultimately contempt, all of which cause division.

The key is to catch the thoughts by becoming aware of them, and then turning them over to Jesus.

“…and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5)

It is critical to remove the undercurrents! The first step is to be on the lookout for negative thoughts. Once you catch a negative thought, reject it as untrue, and then look for a Truth from God’s Word to replace it. When you speak truth over a lie, it loses its power over you, the circumstances, or the other person, and you will react differently. Rejecting a lie, vow, or agreement may include renouncing it, repenting from believing it, or forgiving or asking forgiveness from the other person.

Paul warns us about what happens if we don’t deal with our thoughts in a timely manner.

“In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold." (Ephesians 4:26-27)

In this passage, Paul urges us not to hold onto negative thoughts (in this case, anger), or else we will give the devil a foothold. This doesn’t mean that everything has to be addressed by the end of the day, but it does mean that the longer we allow a negative thought to take hold, the more we are at risk for it growing to become a significant issue in our marriage.

 

Note: Scripture verses are from the New International Version, unless otherwise indicated.


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