Monday, March 25, 2019, 02:39 PM

There are ads running in Ohio about the opioid crisis that ask people if they are living in Denial, Ohio, where they are denying that it exists where they live. The point is to get people to admit that opioid abuse is a problem so that they take steps do something about it.

I started thinking about how this concept might apply to marriage. (Click on the title to read full post.)


Are you (or could you) be living in denial?

  • Are there issues in your marriage that you are ignoring, hoping they will spontaneously resolve on their own?
  • Are you sweeping problems “under the rug,” rather than addressing them, thinking that it’s better to “let sleeping dogs lie”?
  • Are you settling for a roommate, rather than a spouse?
  • Are you ignoring how your struggling marriage is impacting your health, kids, work, and other areas of life?
  • Are you holding back from sharing your true feelings because you are concerned how your spouse might react if you do, or how it might make you look to him or her?

How is it working for you?

What are you gaining by not addressing the issues you are facing in your marriage? What are you losing? We always make choices based on what we are either getting or giving up. If your marriage isn’t what you’d like it to be, there is hope.

You have a choice, and I am not talking about divorce. Many couples wait until they are at the end of their rope and they seek counseling as a last resort, often halfheartedly, not expecting it to do any good.

You can choose to do something about it now, rather than continuing to live in a state of denial. You can meet with a marriage coach, a marriage mentor couple, a pastor, or a counselor. You can attend a marriage conference, participate in a marriage small group discussion, or find a book on marriage to read and discuss together.

What seem like big issues can often be addressed relatively quickly when they aren’t ignored for a long period of time. Even when they are, you would be surprised at how simply they can be overcome through a mutual desire and effort by the spouses with the help of someone who cares, but who is not emotionally involved.

In our experience, putting Jesus at the center of your life and marriage relationship is the key to overcoming all challenges, which would be the place to start. When you do, it becomes a lot easier to address the issues.

Jesus said: “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

Wouldn’t it be great to overcome your troubles and have peace? When you enter into an ever deepening relationship with Jesus, living as he instructs, you will look at challenges differently, even if your circumstances don’t change. So, step out of denial and into his arms!


Note: Scripture verses are from the New International Version, unless otherwise indicated.

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