How much is your marriage influenced by circumstances? Do circumstances affect your mood or how you view your spouse and marriage? Is it possible that you are actually being controlled by your circumstances? If so, it could be an indication that you are not grounded appropriately. (Click on the title to read the full post.)
Circumstances change and if we are not grounded in something that is immovable, we will be in a constant state of flux. The same is true for our marriage.
We believe that Jesus is our grounding point, our foundation. He said:
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” (Matthew 7:24)
I am taking liberty applying the metaphor to marriage, even though it refers to our life (as the “house”). Jesus said that if we hear what he says (as recorded in the Bible) and put it into practice, our (marriage) house will be on solid footing. It will be rock solid. So, it’s not just hearing and believing, but we must do what Jesus is telling us to do.
Hearing, believing and doing are all required to have a solid foundation.
Jesus also tells us that the rains (storms of life) will come, streams (difficulties) will rise, and winds will blow and beat (sometimes for a long time) against us and our marriage. But, when they do, if we are grounded in and walking out our faith in Jesus, we will withstand!
If Jesus is not at the center of your life and marriage, I invite you to ground yourself in him so that you won’t be swayed by your circumstances. Explore and discover who he is through the Bible, or find someone who can teach or guide you so that you can experience the fullness in life and marriage that comes with being one of his followers and knowing him intimately.
Note: Scripture verses are from the New International Version, unless otherwise indicated.