Last week, the leader of a men’s group focused our discussion on Colossians 3. He made the comment that before we step into our roles as a husband, father, business owner, employee, or any other role in life, we are instructed to put on our “uniform:” (Click on the title for the complete post.)
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. (Colossians 3:12-14, emphasis added)
Putting on something is an intentional choice, not just something that happens. This challenged me to consider to what extent my attitudes, words, and actions reflect these virtues. I can’t say that I’ve been intentional about focusing on these things, so I put together a sheet that is now posted in my office to remind me to put on my “uniform” daily! I am confident that as I do, my marriage will be strengthened and healthier.
I went a step further and listed what God tells us to take off and throw away, which are things that were associated with my old self, before inviting Jesus into my heart and growing my relationship with him. This includes, but is not limited to, sexual immorality, lust, anger, filthy language, and lies. (See Colossians 3:1-11 for the complete list.) Keeping these out of my life also takes intentional effort, catching them when thoughts surface and choosing not to go down that path.
So, what “clothes” are you choosing to wear today? Consider how they are impacting the relationship with your spouse. Is it time for a change of clothes?
Note: Scripture verses are from the New International Version, unless otherwise indicated.