A faith-activated marriage is one where each spouse has an active faith, with Jesus at the center of their life and marriage. So, what does that look like? (Click on the title to find out.)
In a faith-activated marriage, the couple engages faith together, in addition to each spouse developing a continually deeper relationship with Jesus through prayer, devotions, Bible study, and other spiritual disciplines. Here are three keys to a faith-activated marriage:
Couples pray together. They not only pray for each other and their marriage separately, but they also pray with each other regularly. Jesus said Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. (Matthew 18:19) What a promise! It is critical that couples agree not only with their words, but in their hearts as well. They do this in faith, believing that God will stay true to His Word.
Couples battle together. They fight for each other and for their marriage using the “weapons” described in the Bible. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. (2 Corinthians 10:4) So, what are some of these weapons? Seek God first. Submit to God. Stand on the Word of God. Invoke the authority Jesus gave us to overcome trials of this world. Oneness (with each other and with God). Love. Faith. Prayer. Praise. Thanksgiving (gratitude). Rejoicing. Forgiveness.
Couples align their lives with God. They live their life consistent with Biblical principles.
One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question: “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” (Matthew 22:35-40)
Love God and love your neighbor as yourself. Our spouse is our closest “neighbor” and so a married couple is living life based on Biblical principles when they focus on loving each other in all the ways the Bible instructs about how a husband is to love his wife, how a wife is to love her husband, and how we are to love one another. We love even and especially when we don’t want to, relying on Jesus as our source of strength.
We believe that couples who focus on these three things will not only enjoy being married, but they will also live a life that is fulfilling and rewarding. To dive deeper, order and read my most recent book, Faith in Marriage: The Strength to Persevere, Overcome, and Thrive.
Note: Scripture verses are from the New International Version, unless otherwise indicated.